Healing from Internalized Whiteness

a 10-week online training for white allies committed to racial justice

from June 25th to August 27th

Do you struggle with how to respond to racism as a white ally -
even though you're committed to racial justice?

Does it leave you feeling overwhelmed and frustrated?

It doesn't have to be like that.

It can feel healing and humanizing - where everyone is called higher.

Let me explain...

Is This You?

Since the election of Trump, many white people's understanding of the US has been shaken to its core.

Instead of being grounded in the myths of a post-racial world, it's become more grounded in the reality of how this country operates on a foundation of white supremacy - as people of color have been experiencing and naming for centuries.

That's been painfully terrifying for many white folks who believe racism is wrong.

If that's you, then please read on.

As Trump's threats and attacks on communities of color escalate, you feel the need to do something to stop them.

But you may also feel frozen in place by the feelings of shock, confusion, denial, and/or guilt at the same time. 

Have you felt:

  • Confused about how to make sure you don't accidentally say something that's racist - when you can't trust yourself to know what's racist
  • Conflicted about speaking up against racism - but not wanting to speak over people of color
  • Ashamed when you still subconsciously stereotype people of color - even though you don't want to
  • Guilty about having white privilege - but not knowing if you're willing to give it up or how to even do that
  • Overwhelmed with trying to figure out what you should do to fight racism - but without asking people of color for the answers while also trying to follow their lead
  • Frustrated with yourself for being scared to talk to white people about racism - while scared of ruining your relationships with them
  • Angry at your white family and friends who just don't get it - even though you're still learning too

Given all that, it can feel almost impossible to address racism, without emotionally flailing and from a grounded place.

It feels like the more you learn about white supremacy, the less you can trust yourself.

In fact, it may feel like as a white person, you can't do anything right around race - and never will.

On top of that, you're supposed to follow the leadership of people of color - but you're not supposed to ask people of color to teach you what to do.

And there's no consensus amongst people of color about what specifically needs to be done either or how to do it - so you don't know who you're supposed to listen to either.

Lost and confused about what to do, you may do nothing - while understanding that white silence is white violence.

Aka your head spins, your heart hurts, and...white supremacy wins.

But it doesn't have to be that way...there is a way out.

Just Imagine...

If you could could address white supremacy from a grounded place - where you were deeply connected to yourself and the other person.

Where you could:

  • Identify the pain that's behind your resistance and struggle to take action for racial justice
  • Care for your pain while holding space for others to do the same
  • Stop being scared of making a mistake and see them as opportunities for compassionate learning
  • Get humanizing alternatives to silencing yourself or coddling other people who are being harmful
  • Engage in dialogue with other people without letting fear or attachment drive you
  • Help other white people transform their ignorance and defensiveness into greater consciousness and motivation to act in solidarity with people of color
  • Begin inviting others into a culture of care and consent with how you show up

Best of all, you’ll be able to do this with a deep understanding and compassion for their white fragility and white guilt - while calling them higher with fierce tenderness.

Because this healing work calls white people to be gentle and patient with themselves, which goes against everything white supremacy taught you to do.

And that’s how you get to show up for others - when you have been healing yourself from internalized whiteness!

Healing from internalized oppression is the primary way I’ve been able to show up in such compassionate ways that effectively call white people higher -  especially as a person of color.

Because I can see your struggle in me and me in your struggle.

But I’ve been on this healing and spiritual path for over a decade.

So I want to teach you in 10 weeks what I learned in 10 years.

That way, you can do it faster, less painfully, and with more compassion!

Here's How I Can Help You

I’ve taken everything I’ve learned from healing from internalized oppression on my own personal journey and from working with white allies.

And I've channeled it into a comprehensive, step-by-step healing processes at the individual and relationship level in this 10-week online training.

You not only get the theory, but you also get the actual action steps of how you can do the same in your own life - every day.

And I will help you practice doing them - throughout the entire online training.

THIS ISN’T SO MUCH A TRAINING
AS IT IS A GUIDED JOURNEY

Yes, you’ll learn the frameworks and healing and co-creation practices to unhook from whiteness.

But more importantly, I'll be having you do it - in real time, in community, and over almost 3 months.

So you shift from just an intellectual knowing into an embodied understanding - gained from actually doing the practices repeatedly.

The end result: You'll have what you need to continue doing the internal work necessary to make external changes possible. 

Because this journey of personal healing and collective liberation is a lifelong one.

Here's What You Will Learn

This 10-week online training gives you the healing and co-creation practices necessary for you to stop being an unconscious pawn of white supremacy.

While you'll always be racially white, you don't have to be culturally white and unconsciously perpetuate racism.

You can learn how to re-become human - so you can be in authentic solidarity with other white people and people of color for our collective liberation.

Module 1: Understanding the Framework

Week 1 - 3

Growing up in a society built on white supremacy and systemic racism, it's impossible for you to not have internalized whiteness.

But since whiteness is so normalized, you grew up unconscious of how unconscious you were of that.

More importantly, you also didn't realize what internalizing whiteness was doing to you - even though it was emotionally and spiritually harming you.

To begin taking steps to free yourself from it, I will guide you through a self-discovery process where you better understand what was done to you when you were made white.

You will:

  • Get a framework of what it means to be human in a dehumanizing world
  • Learn a pathway to re-becoming human together so we may all get free
  • Map out how white supremacy is impacting your life in dehumanizing ways
  • Unpack the impact of believing in the lies of racism and learning the truth about it
  • Understand why and how whiteness was created and the role you inherited from it
  • Get another way of being in the world that's humanizing - and necessary for our collective liberation

Module 2: Healing Yourself 

Week 4 - 6

Whiteness teaches that you to be deathly afraid of acknowledging your internalized whiteness and remain ignorant of the racism that exists in this world.

As someone who acknowledges your own whiteness, this may leave you feeling both angry at yourself for still harboring racist biases, painfully bewildered at how to not be racist, and scared to take action.

To care for these feelings that are keeping you from taking action, you will:

  • Notice when your internalized whiteness is manifesting - even if you're initially unconscious to it
  • Understand how actions driven by internalized whiteness often dehumanize you and others - even if you're just trying to protect yourself
  • Use healing practices to loosen the grip of internalized whiteness on you - even if you feel overwhelmed
  • Work with your anger and frustration around racism - and put it into taking self-compassionate action instead
  • Let yourself to be human - even if that means you sometimes make mistakes

Module 3: Healing Your Relationships

Week 7 - 10

Whiteness can have such a strong hold on white folks, because it says you can either be white and with us - or you can not be white and we'll attack you for it.

The pain of losing this sense of belonging and connection to the white folks you love hurts. And it can keep you from being influential in places where you have the most potential.

To restore your broken relationships and inspire them with your anti-racism journey, you will:

  • Practice how to address everyday racism without silencing yourself or coddling the other person - even if they don't realize what they did was racist
  • Practice staying grounded in your body during difficult conversations - so it takes less of an emotional toll on you
  • Practice co-creating a different future together that cares for everyone's needs
  • Understand how to help people transform their ignorance and defensiveness into greater consciousness - so they will want to take action again racism too
  • Learn how to share your story of healing from internalized whiteness - to invite them into authentic dialogue

Bonuses

In addition to the live online training, here are some bonuses designed to support your learning experience and your ongoing healing journey.

Worksheets

Get worksheets PDF's for each topic covered, including visual diagrams and core points.

So you can better engage with the material and more easily refer to it later!

Videos

If you can't make the live session, no worries! We will record them for you. 

So you can watch the videos at your own convenience!

Guided Practices

Get video recording of of me leading you through four different types of healing practices, just like the ones you learn in the training.

So you can easily continue engaging with the practices you learn in the training - on your own time!

Healing Programs

At the completion of the online training, you will get access to three different self-guided healing programs to continue this work. 

Because healing is a lifelong journey!

What Other Participants Have Said...

"This program provides white anti-racists with crucial missing tools for the most challenging aspect of our work - navigating our own emotional reactions when confronted with the realities of white supremacy.

These tools help us to work through our knee-jerk tendency to reject ourselves or other white people when we encounter how racism operates through us.

With these tools, we can take on one of our most crucial responsibilities - to engage in productive dialogue with those who knowingly or unknowingly defend white supremacy.

This program has helped me to become a more effective change agent by becoming more accepting of what is, within me and around me - so that I can be present to it, honor it, and transform it with courageous compassion."

- Lenore N.

About the Trainer - Sandra Kim

Millions of people have become more socially conscious and taken action to address systemic oppression due to Sandra Kim’s work as the Founder of Everyday Feminism and Re-Becoming Human and creator of healing justice trainings.

Sandra draws on over a decade of her own Buddhism-based healing and spiritual journey as a person with multiple marginalized identities, as an organizational leader, and as a human being living in a dehumanizing society.

She provides the very transformative insights and practices that allows her to continuously re-become human and address systemic oppression from a deeply grounded place.

Sandra also does this work with white people so that other people of color don't feel like they have too. She is able to offer this level of emotional labor with white people, because it does not hurt her - which is uncommon for many people of color who are struggling with the continuous hits they take from racism and white supremacy.

This work does not harm her, because of how deeply she has and continues to heal from her own internalized oppression and how much she is held in loving community. This allows her to approach whiteness from a place of spiritual groundedness and sense of shared humanity.

Through her own personal life and work, she has witnessed time and time again the power of inner transformation to lead into grounded and appropriate action for social justice. That is why, she shares her insights and practices to support you in becoming the person you dream of being in this world - in order to create the world where we are all free.

Frequently Asked Questions

Who is this online training for?

This online training is primarily for white-identified people who want to incorporate a trauma informed, healing engaged, and spiritually grounded approach to their anti-racism work.

If you are a mixed race person with European/white ancestry, you are welcomed to join if you want to focus on healing from the ways you may have internalized whiteness but from a different social location within the racial hierarchy in our society.

It's important that you have the spaciousness to hear other white people share their pain and fear around acknowledging white supremacy without it causing a lot of pain to you. It can understandably be hard for many people of color, including mixed race people, to not be angered or frustrated by white people learning about racism just now when it's been a part of their daily life and community for generations.  

If that's true for you, please know that we will be offering Healing from Marginalization, an online training for people of color, in the future as well. That may be a more appropriate space for you to do this work in.

If you are a person of color with no European/white ancestry and want to take this online course to work on your own internalization of white supremacy and oppression, you are also welcomed to join. People of color have taken this online course in the past and have shared how transformative it was for them.

Just be aware that this is not designed for you - so you may not resonate with some of the framing of whiteness since you're coming from a different social location.

However you can benefit from understanding the perspective of white people and you will most certainly benefit from the other modules on healing ourselves and our relationships.

How does this online training work?

This online training is a 10-week program with weekly live sessions via Zoom. The live sessions will be recorded and shared with the participants who can watch the videos at their own convenience.

Since it is less of a training and more of a facilitated process, there will be a lot of time for:

  • Practices and activities
  • Self-reflection
  • Pair and group sharing
  • Coaching and modeling

Even if you can't make the live session, you can follow along with the videos and do the work on your own.

When and how is this online training happening?

This is a 10-week online training and is from June 25, 2019 - August 27, 2019. We will meet via Zoom video conferences.

The 90-minute live sessions are on Tuesday's at 8 - 9:30 pm ET / 5 - 6:30 pm PT / 1 - 2:30 am BT.

The schedule of live sessions is: 

  • June 25th
  • July 2nd
  • July 9th
  • July 16th
  • July 23rd
  • July 30th
  • August 6th
  • August 13th
  • August 20th
  • August 27th

How much does the training cost?

Sandra has a financial model where her paid work, like this online training, subsidizes her work in communities of color. This way, she's able to work with them without needing to be paid.

As part of this financial model, she asks you to pay what's appropriate for you, given your class and wealth privilege.

  • Sponsorship Fee: $497
    • For people with annual income of over $80,000 or sponsored by their workplace
  • Regular Fee: $297
    • For individuals with annual income over $30,000 and under $80,000
  • Subsidized Fee:$197
    • For individuals with annual income under $30,000

There are also multiple ways to lower your registration fee, including:

  • Scholarship: If $197 is not reasonable for your financial situation, you can pay on a sliding scale. Apply here.
  • Group Discount: Register with at least 2 other people and get a discount off the regular registration fee of $297. Request a group discount here.
    • For 3-5 people: 15% off at $252 per person
    • For 6-8 people: 20% off at $237 per person
    • For 9-11 people: 25% off at $222 per person
  • Payment Plan: Pay the regular fee in three monthly installments of $99. Register here.

No one will be turned away for lack of funds. Just send a message if you need more financial support. 

Do I need to attend the live sessions?

If possible, it's best if you attend the live sessions because we will be doing pair-based activities together.

If you cannot attend the live sessions, that's ok too. We will record them and make the videos available to you.

During the sections when we are doing pair-based activities, you will have reflection questions to answer on your own in the video.

HOWEVER, it is highly recommended that you ask someone who's like-minded to help you do the activities together. This can be at a separate time after you watched the video, if you'd like.

They do NOT need to watch the videos with you. They just need to agree to do the activities as directed and share how it went for them.

Basically, you're just asking them to be a good friend and help you practice this new thing you learned!

This is great practice actually because this online course is designed to support you in using these healing and co-creation practices with everyone in your life - and most will not have taken this training!

How can I bring this to my group?

Given the importance of doing this work in a community, you are highly encouraged to bring this online training to any groups you're a part of and to go through the online training together.  

If you have a group of people interested, please request a group discount. That way each person can register at a lower fee.

  • For 3-5 people: 15% off at $252 per person
  • For 6-8 people: 20% off at $237 per person
  • For 9-11 people: 25% off at $222 per person

Please also note there are also scholarships available for people with limited financial means.

Given the financial accessibility of this online training, please do not have just one person register and then share the online training with a group of people.

This paid work Sandra is offering is what allows her to do work within communities of color without needing to get paid. 

Sandra asks that everyone participating in her online training contribute financially to her and this work in a way that is appropriate for their class background and wealth privilege. 

Thank you for following this honor system and ensuring that Sandra is paid for her emotional labor with white allies as a person of color!

When is registration closed?

Registration is closed on Thursday, June 20th, at midnight PT / 4 am ET since the online training starts the following Tuesday, June 25th.

Will this online training be offered in the future?

This online training will be made available again later in the summer 2019. It will be on-demand and not live though since it will be the recorded videos of this live versions.

However you'll be able to watch it at your own pace and create a group to watch it with you if you'd like.

Will the online training be accessible to people with hearing impairments?

Yes, it will be accessible since the videos will have captions and there will be written worksheets.
 
However because we would need to have someone write up the captions, they won't be available for probably a week or two after the video is released. 
 
That's not a problem since it's self-paced anyways but just please note that should check in on the captions a week or two after you get the email notifying you of the video being ready to be viewed.

How long will I have access to this online training?

You will have life-time access to the online training and can download all the materials when you want to as well.

How much time do I need to commit to this online training?

This online training only asks for 90 minutes per week and if you're watching the recorded videos, then you can watch them at your own convenience at your own pacing.

However, this work is designed to be integrated into your daily life - in terms of you using the frameworks to notice when white supremacy is happening around you and inside of you and using the healing and co-creation practices to address it.

So we hope you will be taking time to process and practice what you learn outside of those 90 minutes per week!

What's the refund and cancellation policy?

There is a 30-day guarantee that begins after the online training starts. If you'd like to cancel your registration and ask for a refund, please contact us here.

Is this different from your other online course, Healing from Toxic Whiteness?

This online training - Healing from Internalized Whiteness - builds off of the older online course - Healing from Toxic Whiteness.

It reflects Sandra's evolved thinking based on her experiences supporting white allies and her own continuous healing and spiritual journey. So her framework is much more developed and nuanced than before.

It also has better teaching pedagogy with more exercises to help participants engage with the content. So there's much more practices and processing than before.

This online training is different enough from the old version that Sandra recommends you take it again if you're interested. There's a sliding scale for people with more limited financial means and a 30 money back guarantee if you feel like it is not different enough for you to complete it.  So there's little financial risk for people doing it twice. 

Is focusing on my own healing just centering whiteness, especially my "white tears?"

This concern is understandable, given how white people’s feelings about racism play out often times. Too often, emotional outbursts like "white tears" and "white fragility" are often used by white people to derail conversations around racism. It keeps them in a position of being "good" and deserving of comfort from others.

It is also often painful for people of color to witness white people becoming more conscious of white supremacy. It often reminds them of the vast disconnection between their lives that are often defined by racism and those of white people who get to remain ignorant of its violence, which allows it to continue unchecked.

Due to these common reasons, it’s often advised that white folks don’t show their emotional reactions around racism in multiracial spaces. And that makes sense - in those contexts.

However, white folks who actually want to do something about racism still need to have a space where their emotions around racism can be held.

You still deserve to be held.

It just means that it needs to be in a space where everyone has consented to look directly and deeply at their internalized whiteness and care for it with compassionate accountability.

The denial of feelings is also what allows for white supremacy to continue unchecked in white people.

If white people were actually in touch with their feelings, then they would be called into action by their compassion when witnessing violence towards people of color - instead of justifying it with the lies of racism.  

But the unnamed and uncared for trauma of being made white results in white folks being terrified of getting in touch with their own feelings around racism.

Consequently, they can’t do anything about something they won’t even acknowledge as being true.

That’s why, healing the trauma from internalizing whiteness is needed for white people who want to be anti-racist.

How will healing from internalized whiteness help me to talk other white people about racism?

You'll learn how to talk with other white folks effectively about racism because in addition to getting a step-by-step process to setting up the conversation, you’ll also learn how to talk to yourself in a humanizing way.  

And it’s important that we take a humanizing approach to dismantling oppression because only then are we living our values - and not merely replicating the dehumanizing tactics of oppression.

Plus, it’s more likely to be effective because you get to come from a grounded place and meet them where they're at - from a non-judgmental and still unapologetic anti-racist perspective.

By sharing your own stories of how you became aware of your unconscious internalized whiteness with compassionate accountability, you’ll be able to model that for other white people and invite them into noticing their own unconscious internalized whiteness without dehumanizing them.

Additionally, you’ll get communication practices to help you co-create the conversation so it’s consensual and the other person feels seen and valued as another human being - even if you disagree with them strongly.

How relevant is this to white people outside of the US?

This online training is focused on the historical and cultural context of the United States and will not cover the contexts of other countries.

However, whiteness was first legally created in colonial America and was spread to the rest of the world from there. So the framework offered is still very relevant to white people outside of the US.

Also, the healing and co-creation practices you will learn is based on what it means to be human - which is true for people across all countries.

If you are not from the US and/or not living in the US, you are advised to read and learn more about the history of white supremacy and racism in your own countries to see how it is played out there specifically.

 

This Is For You - IF You Want To...

  • Free yourself from internalized whiteness and stop letting white supremacy use you as their pawn
  • Be grounded in your own humanity and connect with others from that heart-centered place as you work to address racism
  • Co-create a loving circle around you to support each other in this healing and liberation work

You don't need to know how to do it.

You just need to be want to do it. 

I can show you the rest.

If you're ready to get started, keep reading to learn how to register.

Registration

Sponsorship Fee

$497 USD

  • For people earning more than $80K or sponsored by work
  • 10 Live and recorded classes
  • 30+ Worksheets
  • 4 Guided healing practices
  • 3 Healing programs

Regular Fee

$297 USD

  • For people earning more than $30K and less than $80K
  • 10 Live and recorded classes
  • 30+ Worksheets
  • 4 Guided healing practices
  • 3 Healing programs

Subsidized Fee

$197 USD

  • For people earning less than $30K per year
  • 10 Live and recorded classes
  • 30+ Worksheets
  • 4 Guided healing practices
  • 3 Healing programs

Scholarships are available if you cannot afford the subsidized fee of $197. Apply here.

Group discounts are also available if 3 or more people want to do the online training together. Request one here.

Payment Plan is also available if you want to pay the regular fee in monthly installments of $99 for 3 months. Register here.

This Could Be True For You Too...

"Before I thought the answer to addressing white supremacy was in "good" white people coercing "bad" white people into change. Through this program, I realized that perspective can be not only hurtful but also inaccurate and ineffective.  

Things can get better when "good" white people become willing to connect to the pain of internalized white supremacy and are able to consciously choose to not act in racist ways.

Before I wasn't open to that part of myself. But now, I can actually accompany other white people in addressing their racism, because I'm learning how to address my own."

- Michael B.

“I want to extend an enormous amount of gratitude! From my journey in this program, I emerged with a newfound confidence to talk about racial justice within white communities from a place of non-attachment and dedicated service. It allowed for intellectual and emotional growth.

It was an exceptional experience to be held in witness of shame and guilt as a white person while still being held compassionately accountable by Sandra.

This has profoundly shifted my worldview and fueled my sense of gratitude. My journey in this program gifted me the opportunity to share and process in safe space. I will definitely be returning to the course material to deepen my understanding and personal study.”

– Maxi L.